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　　Active listening is the art of listening to feelings，then reflecting them back.Active listening does not require that you agree with your child's feelings，but it allows your child to feel connected and understood and provides an opportunity to explore those mysterious impulses(沖動)known as emotions.

　　Four-year-old Chrissy ran through the front door，slamming(砰地關(guān)上)it so forcefully that the pictures fell off the wall.“I hate Tammy！”she cried. Then Chrissy threw herself onto the sofa in a storm of sobs.

　　Her mom，Diane，looked up from the bills she

　　was going to pay.Resisting the impulse to scold(責罵)Chrissy for slamming the door，she asked quietly，“What's the matter with you，Chrissy？”

　　Chrissy said sadly，“Tammy took my ball! Tammy is bigger than me.It isn't fair for her to take away my ball.”

　　“It must be pretty frustrating to be picked on by a big girl，”Diane said.“Yeah.I'm mad，”the little girl said firmly.“I don't want to play with her anymore.”She sat quietly for a moment，watching as Diane put stamps on envelopes.

　　After a while，Chrissy said，“Mom，can I go to play out in the backyard？”Diane gave her daughter a hug.Chrissy left，seeming to forget her anger.

　　By simply

　　reflecting

　　back her daughter's

　　underlying feelings，Diane allowed Chrissy the opportunity to explore what was going on for her，and in the process，Chrissy discovered a solution to her own problem.Some other time，Diane might be able to talk with Chrissy about avoiding future problems and perhaps ask her what she could do to express her anger instead of slamming the door.

　　Like most adults，sometimes what children really need is for someone to listen and understand.Active listening

　　opens the door

　　for

　　real

　　connection

　　and problem solving and works toward building a lifelong relationship of love and trust.

　　Which of the following can be the best title for the passage?

　　A．Active Listening Does Count!

　　B．Children Need to Be Understood!

　　C．It Is Wrong for Children to Express Anger

　　D．Listening Helps Understand What Children Think

　　答案　A　[標題概括題。第一段、最后一段以及文中所講的媽媽對待生氣的小女孩的故事都強調(diào)了積極傾聽的重要性，故A項最佳。]

　　[學 以 致 用]

　　Active listening is the art of listening to feelings，then reflecting them back.Active listening does not require that you agree with your child's feelings，but it allows your child to feel connected and understood and provides an opportunity to explore those mysterious impulses(沖動)known as emotions.

　　Four-year-old Chrissy ran through the front door，slamming(砰地關(guān)上)it so forcefully that the pictures fell off the wall.“I hate Tammy！”she cried. Then Chrissy threw herself onto the sofa in a storm of sobs.

　　Her mom，Diane，looked up from the bills she

　　was going to pay.Resisting the impulse to scold(責罵)Chrissy for slamming the door，she asked quietly，“What's the matter with you，Chrissy？”

　　Chrissy said sadly，“Tammy took my ball! Tammy is bigger than me.It isn't fair for her to take away my ball.”

　　“It must be pretty frustrating to be picked on by a big girl，”Diane said.“Yeah.I'm mad，”the little girl said firmly.“I don't want to play with her anymore.”She sat quietly for a moment，watching as Diane put stamps on envelopes.

　　After a while，Chrissy said，“Mom，can I go to play out in the backyard？”Diane gave her daughter a hug.Chrissy left，seeming to forget her anger.

　　By simply

　　reflecting

　　back her daughter's

　　underlying feelings，Diane allowed Chrissy the opportunity to explore what was going on for her，and in the process，Chrissy discovered a solution to her own problem.Some other time，Diane might be able to talk with Chrissy about avoiding future problems and perhaps ask her what she could do to express her anger instead of slamming the door.

　　Like most adults，sometimes what children really need is for someone to listen and understand.Active listening

　　opens the door

　　for

　　real

　　connection

　　and problem solving and works toward building a lifelong relationship of love and trust.

　　Which of the following can be the best title for the passage?

　　A．Active Listening Does Count!

　　B．Children Need to Be Understood!

　　C．It Is Wrong for Children to Express Anger

　　D．Listening Helps Understand What Children Think

　　答案　A　[標題概括題。第一段、最后一段以及文中所講的媽媽對待生氣的小女孩的故事都強調(diào)了積極傾聽的重要性，故A項最佳。]