四級閱讀:怎樣面對強勢的人說＂不＂
No. Its one of the shortest words in the English vocabulary, but its also one of the most difficult for many of us to say.
NO，這個詞可謂是英文中最短的單詞之一了。但要說出一個不字，對很多人來說卻大有難度。
We all know that setting limits will lower our stress level and save our sanity, but sometimes we are caught off guard by people who simply wont take no for an answer. Read on to learn how to put your foot down with these master manipulators。
我們都明白，為自己的承受力設限可以降低壓力，讓自己保持清醒。但有時，一些人并不準備從你那里得到否定答案，你在這些人面前完全沒有防備之力。閱讀以下的內容，可以知道如何在這些超有控制欲的人面前保持立場。
The Flatterer
拍馬屁的人
Whether its the friend who tells you how smart you are and how much shed appreciate your help on a volunteer project shes working on, or the school mom who insists that the students will be so disappointed if you dont make your special cupcakes for the class holiday party, the flatterer plays to your vanity by making you feel indispensable。
你的朋友或許會夸獎你有多聰明，并聲稱如果你幫她完成一個志愿項目的話，她會心懷感激;老師或許會說如果你不為班級的周末派對做蛋糕的話，學生們會十分失望。不管何種情形，拍馬屁的人會以迎合你的虛榮心的方式，讓你覺得自己無可替代。
Reality check: If you want to help out because it gives you pleasure, fine, but no one is irreplaceable. If its not brain surgery, others can do itmaybe not with your pizzazz, but it will get done and the cosmos will not explode in the process, says Susan Newman, PhD, author of The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say Itand Mean It and Stop People- Pleasing Forever。
審視現實：如果你因為可以從中得到快樂而答應幫忙，這當然無可厚非。但你必須知道，沒有人無可替代。又不是動腦手術，其他人也能做--或許別人沒你那么活力四射，但事情還是能完成，并且這個過程中，宇宙也不會爆炸著有《250種方法說不》的蘇珊紐曼博士如是說，別老是想著討好別人。
No. Its one of the shortest words in the English vocabulary, but its also one of the most difficult for many of us to say.
NO，這個詞可謂是英文中最短的單詞之一了。但要說出一個不字，對很多人來說卻大有難度。
We all know that setting limits will lower our stress level and save our sanity, but sometimes we are caught off guard by people who simply wont take no for an answer. Read on to learn how to put your foot down with these master manipulators。
我們都明白，為自己的承受力設限可以降低壓力，讓自己保持清醒。但有時，一些人并不準備從你那里得到否定答案，你在這些人面前完全沒有防備之力。閱讀以下的內容，可以知道如何在這些超有控制欲的人面前保持立場。
The Flatterer
拍馬屁的人
Whether its the friend who tells you how smart you are and how much shed appreciate your help on a volunteer project shes working on, or the school mom who insists that the students will be so disappointed if you dont make your special cupcakes for the class holiday party, the flatterer plays to your vanity by making you feel indispensable。
你的朋友或許會夸獎你有多聰明，并聲稱如果你幫她完成一個志愿項目的話，她會心懷感激;老師或許會說如果你不為班級的周末派對做蛋糕的話，學生們會十分失望。不管何種情形，拍馬屁的人會以迎合你的虛榮心的方式，讓你覺得自己無可替代。
Reality check: If you want to help out because it gives you pleasure, fine, but no one is irreplaceable. If its not brain surgery, others can do itmaybe not with your pizzazz, but it will get done and the cosmos will not explode in the process, says Susan Newman, PhD, author of The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say Itand Mean It and Stop People- Pleasing Forever。
審視現實：如果你因為可以從中得到快樂而答應幫忙，這當然無可厚非。但你必須知道，沒有人無可替代。又不是動腦手術，其他人也能做--或許別人沒你那么活力四射，但事情還是能完成，并且這個過程中，宇宙也不會爆炸著有《250種方法說不》的蘇珊紐曼博士如是說，別老是想著討好別人。
